Repeat after me. “No.”
How does that feel? Say it again.
See, it’s not such a bad word. It’s not even that difficult to say. However, so many of us have such a tough time saying “no” to things we shouldn’t be involved with.
In part, the inability to say “no” stems from a place of insecurity and “people-pleasing.” When we are not sure of who we are, we are afraid to say “no” to someone, fearing they will reject us or no longer want to “be our friend.”
The truth is, people who know who they are AND what they want would not waste their time on something that doesn’t add value to their lives or the lives of those around them.
Saying “no” to something that you are not invested in nor have any interest in allows you to say “yes” to things that enhance your life and the lives of those in your circle of influence. And, therefore, you become more influential.
The Value of Saying “No”
In The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey says that saying “no” is essential to living a balanced life.
Saying “no” prevents you from overextending yourself.
Saying “no” demonstrates to others that you have boundaries in your life.
Saying “no” shows that you are in control of your life and how you spend your time.
Saying “no” gives you the opportunity to enjoy YOUR life.
The next time someone asks you to do something that you are not invested in, have no interest in, nor have the time to engage, say “no.” It won’t cost you anything; however, it could save you energy, time, and sanity.